Monday, October 18, 2010

Marriage Matters Monday: On the Same Page?

Are you and your spouse/partner on the same page?
Sometimes, if there's a minor lapse in communication, it's really not the end of the world. For instance, if you're not on the same page about what the plans for the weekend are, a suitable compromise can be reached. But sometimes, if you're not on the same page, it can be a BIG deal. Matters such as purchasing a home, having children, saving for the future... these are all tremendous decisions that must be made together.
In my relationship, it's hard for The Hubs and I to get two words in to each other at any given time with these kids in our faces all the time, his work, my other commitments, and just... life. So we have found that it's very important to plan for time to talk. Sometimes we do it on a "date night", sometimes we just make it a point to stay up later together on a weekend night to discuss things that we feel are important to us. We may not always agree at first (This is where the compromise comes in handy). But it's a step closer to "getting on the same page".
And if we aren't on the same page as one another, we use that time to figure out why, and how we can fix it.

So... are you and your Significant Other "on the same page"?